But grief is not confined only to the death of a loved one. A move from the "old family home" or from "our country"; loss of possessions; money, job; health; the death of a pet; the marriage of a member of the family; can sometimes be just as devastating as death. In divorce, the grief may be even worse because there is not the finality of death.
Statistics prove that in the first year of bereavement, widows and widowers have a death rate ten times as great as that of a similar segment of the population which has not been bereaved.
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There are many other circumstances not listed above that can cause grief in peoples's lives.
People may have talked about their grief and supposedly faced up to the facts. They may have mourned and wept for many months and sometimes years. However, there often still remains unknown depths of unexpressed grief. In some cases, the emotional state will never return to what it was before.
Those who grieve over death are called "bereaved". The word "reave" means to forcibly deprive or take by force. A "bereaved" person is literally one who is broken up in what is an intensely personal experience.
We often talk of grief and some of us have experienced it at a deep level. Are we able to cope with it? Are we able to help others who grieve? Do we know what to say, how to act?
We cannot face grief alone. We need the help of friends, relatives and counsellors, but we also need the help of God to receive the strength that only He can provide, to enable us to face these experiences.
Unfortunately, we will all face grief at some stage in our lives, but with help from friends and relatives and also from God in reading the Bible, praying and going to a Church, we will not grieve without hope, because in the midst of intense sorrow, despair, pain and loneliness, we will feel the reality of Christ's presence.
This post has been made with the help of the leaflet "CHRISTIANS GRIEVE TOO" by Donald Howard
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